Most people feel angry at times in their life. But for some, anger can get out of control. It can cause issues in relationships and work, and even lead to legal problems.
Sometimes people don’t recognise that anger is a problem for them. They may see other people or things as the problem instead.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. Aggression is how some people behave when they feel angry.
Not everyone who feels angry is aggressive. Not everyone who acts aggressively is angry. For example, sometimes people behave aggressively because they feel afraid or threatened.
Alcohol and some illegal drugs can also make people act more aggressively.
Anger is different for everyone. Things that make some people angry don’t bother others at all.
But there are things that make a lot of us feel angry. These include:
There are lots of things that can affect how you react to anger. This can mean you react poorly to anger or have trouble controlling it.
Your situation in life can affect how well you’re able to control anger. For example, it gets more difficult to control your anger if you’re stressed or you’re dealing with other challenges.
Your family history can also have a strong effect on how you manage anger and other negative emotions. Growing up, you may have learned unhelpful ways of dealing with anger from the adults in your life.
You may also be dealing with anger from the past that you weren’t able to deal with or express. This can make it harder to deal with new situations that make you feel angry.
Some people express their anger by:
People who turn anger inwards may harm themselves as a way of coping with the intense feelings they have.
Phone 111 if you need help now.
You can also phone the Breathing Space helpline on 0800 83 85 87 for support. This is open 6pm to 2am Monday to Thursday and 24 hours at the weekend.
It’s important to deal with anger in a healthy way that doesn’t harm you or anyone else. With time, you can learn to:
Learn how to control your anger
Domestic violence is violence or threatening behaviour within the home. If uncontrolled anger leads to domestic violence, there are places that offer help and support.
If you feel at risk, phone 999 or contact one of these organisations for help:
Last updated:
04 June 2024